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Thank you Bolivia

Henry is usually a bit grumpy on waking from his quarterly spinal methotrexate (if all goes to plan, it’s his penultimate). But today we discussed Bolivia’s 2 largest lakes. Their names are the perfect remedy to tickle up a snarky 9 year old.

The number 2 is Poopo; Titicaca is the top trump.

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Joy to the world

Celia writes: “On this Sunday three years ago our Hen knocked his ankle at our friend’s annual advent party. It seemed to cause him a disproportionate amount of pain and we couldn’t understand why. We later found it was because his joints were filling with blast cells – the kind of cells that were also going to kill him. Thankfully, some really great doctors zapped them, albeit slowly and painfully. Right now I’m watching Henners in a swimming race and he’s tearing the bloody place up. JD and I are looking forward to a hearty first Noel at the Advent party this afternoon. Joy to the World!”

A picture in my wallet

Pre-diagnosis photo at Winter Wonderland in 2012

Shortly before diagnosis, H had been sickly for several weeks – with various winter bugs and an overwhelming tiredness.

In my wallet, I carry a photo of Henry and Huck. In fact I have several – like most parents. But there is one always at the top.

It’s been there since before Christmas in 2012 and it’ll stay there for a long time. I haven’t got a digital version of the photo (this one is scanned and grainy).

It was supposed to be a fun Polaroid – taken at the school’s winter festival.

Originally I kind of liked the boys’ disinterest in contrast to the surrounding glitz. I don’t mind that it’s fading and getting a little tattered. But now I like it for different reasons.

In the photo Henry looks small and tired. And that’s because he was. Catching the mood, Huck looks unimpressed. Henry’s half-smile speaks volumes about that time. He was putting a brave face on several weeks of winter bugs that he couldn’t shake off and he was dogged by a consuming fatigue so he struggled to walk the short distance to school each day.

"bone marrow cells affected by leukemia".Photograph. Encyclopædia Britannica Online. Web. 17 Nov. 2014.

“Bone marrow cells affected by leukemia”. Photograph. c/o Encyclopædia Britannica Online. Web. 17 Nov. 2014.

About this time, he banged his leg at a pre-Christmas party and was in agony. We didn’t realise that his bones were filling with mutated white blood cells that, far from defending him, were killing him.

But now I like the photo because it reminds me of how far he’s come. Everyday Henry gets taller and faster and has ever more hair (his mother refuses to get it cut after its loss).

And this week Henry is exactly 18 months – that’s halfway – through his “maintenance treatment”. At 3 years (2 years for girls), this is the longest phase of the treatment.

The clinical trial that Henry’s part of seems to have been good to him. He doesn’t have monthly injections of the chemotherapy vincristine nor the horrible steroid dexamethasone. Everyday we hope that the treatment is doing enough to stop the return of the leukaemic cells, and we celebrate the relative normality of H’s life.

From time to time we get reminders not to be complacent. He still doesn’t spring out of bed in the mornings, which is sometimes scary, but he doesn’t want to lie down in the street either. Winter is not a good time to have severely reduced immunity. Early this month, H came into contact with someone with a suspected case of chicken pox which sent us scurrying to the oncologists. He was given two syringes loaded with chicken pox antibodies extracted from the blood plasma of donors. This is not something you want to do lightly. But risks and benefits have taken a different meaning for us. And he is well.

Everyday I look at the little, pale, tired boy, in the picture, think of the hair loss, the chemically red-tinged chemotherapy skin, the theft of his speed, the dripped-in and fought-over medicines and all the other complications he has borne.

And then I look at him now, halfway through maintenance with his hair and his cheeky grin, infectious laugh and his energy.

I like that tatty photo because it reminds me of distance travelled and gives me hope.

Paddling at the Diana Memorial  Fountain

There was no stopping him

Are we trying to beat childhood cancer?

Henry is on old medicines. That is, they were developed a long time ago. We’re lucky in that mostly they work. Over the years, their combination and use has been tested and tweaked.

And now Henry, as part of the clinical trial UKALL2011, is helping to tweak the treatment further. This trial is about reducing the levels of poison needed to beat this childhood cancer.

Henry with Huck at nursery graduation 2014

Henry with Huck at nursery graduation 2014

These treatments have long-lasting effects; so striving to improve them is hugely important. The idea is to make the rest of H’s life and the lives of future children with leukaemia better.

I’ve wondered for some time why the medicines have been around so long and why new treatments have not appeared. This documentary helps to explain.

I’m delighted the excellent BBC documentary team at File on 4 have shone a light on this. Now it’s time for politicians, mandarins and industrialists to act.

Kill two birds with one stone: you could always download the podcast and listen to it while giving blood.

Life without the Madagascar Periwinkle

It feels a bit strange to be back at Great Ormond Street after 3 months away. Henry has continued to have the weekly blood tests but there has not been much to report. This is of course a wonderful thing.

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That’s not to say things have been event free. There was a vomiting bug which a year ago would have wound us up nicely. But Henry seemed to recover from it faster than many of his classmates and it didn’t send us into hospital.

And then there was an allergy scare in March. The doctors were worried about the low levels of oxygen in his blood. We thought he might have been allergic to one of his chemotherapies. That would have been highly unusual and bad news. Henry is getting less than the normal treatment because of the clinical trial he’s in. With a disruption to the chemotherapy, we could have been back onto the normal protocol which is much harder. That would have meant monthly vincristine and its steroid henchman dexamethasone.

Vincristine comes from the Periwinkle

The periwinkle is the source of vincristine’s oomph.

Although it’s a drug derived from the rather lovely periwinkle, vincristine’s side effects are not so charming – hair loss, muscle and joint pain, nausea.

The allergic response was to a drug he takes each week to prevent a type of pneumonia that can strike patients with compromised immune systems. The drug, Dapsone, is usually used to treat leprosy… and it did something his red blood cells were not keen on. So now Henry is back on his old foe Septrin – which he hates. But by giving it to him in crushed tablets and calling it by its compound name co-trimoxazole we’re now getting it down him.

In fact the medicine refusal has largely disappeared.

The most dramatic change has been on Henry’s hair. This has come back beautifully blond and continues to spiral out of control – to his annoyance and our delight.

We’ve been very poor bloggers. It must be 8 or 9 months since we last posted. But it is a sign that things can return to a normality that we post so infrequently.

Today Henry is in for a general anaesthetic so they can put methotrexate into his spine. I was thinking yesterday that we were getting used to this. But that’s not possible. While Henry is taking it in his stride, the prospect makes me feel distinctly queasy. Celia and I are not clasping each other for reassurance as we did when he was first put under. But there’s nothing normal about it.

2 July 2014

They said sorry

The Iberostar Grand Mencey Hotel has said sorry without reservation. The manager took full responsibility for causing the problems that led to our complaint and we have accepted his apologies.

You can come out now

You can come out now

In the UK we have legislation which protects the families of people with disabilities (and cancer is included in this) because mis-treating close family members is considered indirect discrimination. I’m no lawyer and cannot say if this would have applied in this case if it had happened in the UK but it felt pretty rotten to us. The hotel accepted this and have made amends.

We’ve had some really kind and thoughtful comments and thousands of people have visited the blog. Once again we have learnt that while cancer can be truly awful, it also brings out the very best in most people. Thank you for all the support and having our backs – it matters a great deal.

Is this discrimination against a cancer patient and his family? It feels like it.

Don't judge a book by its cover

Don’t judge a book by its cover

*UPDATE – this has now been resolved with profuse apologies from the hotel*

Here we report on the Iberostar Grand Hotel Mencey in Tenerife.

This morning this hotel reduced Henry to tears. That’s not easy to do. He has had needles thrust in his chest, regular injections in his spine, he has had high levels of vein-dissolving chemotherapy, he has had blood and plasma transfusions, he has had his hair burnt out by his medicine. He has had disfiguring steroids that have swollen his face and body and others that have made him unable to run, sometimes even to walk. He has fought all this with as much patience as he can muster, which is a lot. He has not faced meanness until today. It was the meanness that brought on the tears.

Today he tried to go for a swim with his brother in our posh hotel – the Iberostar Grand Hotel Mencey. He’s a guest here. His bed did not come cheap. But we’ve had a very hard year and this is Henry’s first big holiday since he was hospitalised on New Year’s Eve 2012. The hotel decided we could not. Henry would be allowed on his own but not with his brother or both his parents.

Because of his leukaemia, Henry has little tolerance to the sun. There is an indoor pool, and an outdoor pool that has no shade at all. We chose this hotel because it would give us options – to avoid the heat of the sun when necessary.

Iberostar Mencey's unshaded outdoor pool

Iberostar Mencey’s unshaded outdoor pool

But when we asked for a short swim in the indoor pool, as it is not safe for Henry to swim too long in the direct sun, we were told the indoor pool was for adults only (a fact not made clear on the website). The pool is empty much of the time. Even though it’s a 5-star hotel the staff were totally inflexible. Henry’s kindly Uncle G, who has contacts in the hotel trade, made some requests behind the scenes and we received a call from reception and told our use of the indoor pool would be ‘no problem’.

Family permission withdrawn

Family permission withdrawn. Looking into the indoor pool.

We had a 20 minute swim and the boys were quiet and well-behaved. Two days later we returned to the indoor pool and our permission to swim as a family had been withdrawn. Apparently a fellow-guest had complained. The hotel manager said he had explained to this guest that the hotel had made an exception for us because our child has cancer, but the guest had said that this was not her problem – it was ours.

The hotel decided to prioritise this complainant’s wishes over ours.

We have, overall, been lucky on our travels when we have needed some flexibility. This is one of the few things that helps you through the grinding misery of childhood cancer. The Grand Hotel Mencey – one of the jewels of Iberostar’s chain – has been the exception. They have shown us meanness and shown our children that, in some establishments, intolerance is rewarded. I’m not sure this would have been legal in the UK, Iberostar insists that in Spain it’s fine.

It has tarnished our longed-for holiday that we have stretched ourselves to give the boys.

I burnt the toast

The smoke alarm went off this morning. As ever our 4 year-old, Huck, dashed out of the room. He is terrified of alarms. We are used to his reaction to smoke alarms, car alarms and even hand-dryers in public bathrooms if they are high-pitched enough. We don’t really stop to think that it is odd.

We’ve always put Huck’s fright from alarms down to his 101 days in hospital after he was born 13 weeks early. If you’ve ever been to a neonatal intensive care unit for the wrong reason, you’ll likely have been struck by the discord sowed by the alarms – an apparently random dissonant collection of noises. They don’t really stop.

Careful handling of Huck in neonatal intensive care

Careful handling of Huck in neonatal intensive care

They are there to warn you that your child’s oxygen levels have dropped to dangerous levels, that they have stopped breathing, or that their heart has paused its beating. Back when Huck lived in intensive care and for a good while afterwards, we heard the alarms in our dreams. I don’t see why children, like adults, should not be affected – however difficult that is to prove.

Henry’s yellow hair is sprouting again. He is catching up on his school work. He is getting faster. Every day, he looks a little healthier. But last night, he climbed into bed with us. I only realised when I was woken by the sound of him grinding his teeth. Trauma for children must be expected, but we are given little guidance on how to spot the signs and how to tackle it before it becomes an issue.

Henry and Pam, October 2013

Henry and Pam, October 2013

Today our marvellous friend and cheerleader Pam, who is in London from the US for a few days, shared a blog by Perri Klass published on the New York Times website (Haunted by a child’s illness) that reminded me that Huck’s reaction is probably not normal, and that Celia and I need to be mindful of our own response to the upheaval in our home. For our sake as well as the boys’.

There are so many good points in the NY Times blog. Do parents suffer a kind of post-traumatic stress disorder in the years after a child’s illness? What effects do children and parents suffer? How can you tackle these problems? How do you stop them in the first place?

My mantra during the days with Huck and more recently with Henry (picked up second-hand from BBC warzone training) has always been: Don’t become part of the incident. Others might call this unhealthy denial. But we have been enormously lucky to have huge amounts of support. We have this blog where we vent our anger and “get it out”. We have employers who give us the space to deal with our lives. We have friends and family who provide for us in any number of ways and force us to take time out. And we know our responsibility: we do everything in our power to stay well – mentally and physically. We know we are in a struggle.

When writing the news at the BBC, particularly when dealing with harrowing stories, I tried to separate myself from events – deliberately trying to be dispassionate. There is a difference between where I was and actually being in the heat of the action. In the newsroom, I could look away from the feeds bringing in frightful, often disgusting pictures of atrocity. I could turn my eyes to more normal scenes when I needed to. I was rarely in the field.  I’m lucky that I was never caught up in the horror of a country facing upheaval or directly and devastatingly drawn in to the action of a country in crisis. But I had colleagues who were. And they took different, but often unsupported ways to try to reconcile for themselves what they had seen. There is an excellent article on this: Journalists and trauma: ‘Some images you can’t forget’. And I know now that “being dispassionate” doesn’t work.

With Huck and Henry we have been in the field. With help we have come to cope with it.  I hope.

Huck and Henry at the ice cream parlour

Huck and Henry at the ice cream parlour

This week, the charity, Macmillan Cancer support has released research saying that nearly a million people in England look after someone with cancer, half of them felt they weren’t getting enough support, and nearly half suffer mental health problems. Macmillan’s research coincides with a campaign to influence the Care Bill which is currently being discussed in Parliament. Please click on the link and ask your MP to do their bit for carers. Most people are not as lucky as we are.

So near, and yet so far from the end

I made some notes last Wednesday. Sorry it’s taken a week to post:

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07.00 Henry snoozes while we dress him. It was a reasonably late one again last night. I’m no longer sure if that’s drug side effects or lax parenting. I’ll go with side effects!

07.15 Taxi to Gt Ormond Street. Henry tells jokes on the way – of them, my favourite is: “What’s brown and sticky?” The nice and dry pause: “A stick.”

07.45 We’re not the first to arrive.

Weigh in

H seems to really enjoy this today. He’s being a real scamp.

Weigh in, blood pressure, blood oxygen levels, temperature, height check.

08.00 Allocated a bed and off we go.

Waiting.

08.20 Checks by nurse consultant. Reflexes, last eaten when? are you well? searches for leukaemia hiding near lymphs.

08.40 Anaesthetist visits.

09.00 Corridor cricket and football.

09.30 Cbeebies

09.45 We’re ready for you.

10.00 I’m waiting for Henry to wake up from the procedure (methotrexate into his spine to stop the leukaemia spreading to his CNS). It’s taken longer than usual for him to wake up which is a bit unnerving. An hour ago, we were playing football in the cubicle on the ward… Now he’s refusing to wake up. The last time I went to check on him the nurse offered to wake him; but last time they brought him round unnaturally he responded violently. Let sleeping dogs lie.

10.10 Still waiting. Once Henry wakes, we’ll pick up his chemo for the next week and head home. Just another round of Cytarabine; some more vincristine, a jab of Asparaginase and we’re into maintenance.

10.15 Still no sign. A young teenage lad has arrived and is encamped on the other side of the cubicle. His mum and two mates are here too. The nurse consultant is looking into his eyes and checking his spine. Lord knows what he’s been through. But he’s calm and polite and unruffled. If only Kipling had spent time here, If may have been even better.

All the meds have taken their toll again. Last week Henry’s hair fell out pretty quickly. But second time round it caused less of a stir. Henry couldn’t give two hoots. But the steroids have fattened him up. He usually has the frame of a racing snake (to quote his Uncle Jim) but he has now definitely bulked up. His face has changed shape too. There’s something other-worldly or surreal about this stage. We can see the end of the intense phase but Henry is still in the midst of his big, big medicines.

10.25 And here’s a timely illustration of the surreality – he’s back now from the procedure and awake. Each procedure carries risks and worries so it’s an enormous relief when he reappears. But he’s really very cross and I’d love him to go back to sleep. (Thankfully that’s what he’s currently trying to do.) And fortunately there’ve been no thrown punches this week.

10.45 He’s just really gathered himself and has shaken off the post op anger. Henry hates the mood changing effects of his medicines and fights hard to overcome them, although sometimes they’re too much for him.

11.00 Munching. Wait for the chemotherapy we have to take home. Four doses of Cytarabine (to be “pushed” into the port and a syringe full of Asparaginase (a jab into his muscle).

12.00 A nurse comes to lock Henry’s port. He stays accessed because of the forthcoming Cytarabine. But they flush the line (stuck into his chest) with saline and “lock” it with the anti-coagulant Heparin.

12.30 Home by taxi (public transport still banned). That was (unusually) speedy.

Heading home

Heading home

Boris steps up… and puts a foot in his mouth

A quick note to add to last night’s blog… It seems Boris Johnson has held a measles summit at City Hall. He is quoted in the Standard saying that parents should not be “overly concerned” about a measles outbreak in London. That is very, very silly. We need to contain this outbreak as quickly as possible. Although he stressed people should give their kids the MMR vaccine, we must not give the dawdlers any wriggle room. People need to take their kids for vaccination now. Every jab counts; the faster you get it done, the better for everyone.

There is no treatment for measles, Henry’s cancer nurse consultant told me this morning he would have to fight it himself which he has little ability to do. Please be concerned, if not for your child then for other children.

[Update: I’ve just had a terse exchange with the Mayor’s Director of Communications who felt Boris had been misunderstood and that he had been trying to avoid panicking people. He also said the Mayor’s record was good on MMR, which is true. But I pointed out (as Celia did on LBC 97.9 this evening), that people didn’t know what ‘overly’ meant and they assumed it implied measles was not something to worry about (as many callers were saying on LBC 97.9).

Hopefully there will be a clarification on its way from Boris. Good grief!]